Wyatt, I realize that you won’t read this for a few years, but I thought it would be fun to write you a letter telling you how much you have changed my life for the better.
Four years ago today, June 18, 2015, you made your grand entrance into the world. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I didn’t take one parenting class and I had made it through 28 years of life without changing a diaper. I am a firm believer in trusting my instincts, learning on the fly, and showing up when I am scared to death to meet my challenge and that is what I have done, every single day since you were born.
I wanted to take you through a timeline of the first 4 years of your life so you could have a clear picture of where you came from, and how you changed the world but I would be writing for days. Instead, I picked the major lessons your taught me with each passing year.
Theme: Divine Intervention
You taught me the power of divine intervention. You kept your momma’s spirit alive when she went through a very difficult time. You could not have come at a better time and I truly believe your birth was a divine intervention. You see, your Mawmaw only had a short amount of time left here on earth when you were born, although we didn’t know it at the time. You and Mawmaw had some fun times together. She watched you during her good days, and you were there to comfort her spirit on her bad days. You did more for her than you will ever know. We physically lost Mawmaw in 2017, but you keep her spirit and memory alive in many ways. You always comment on her angel in the front yard and out of the blue say “Its Mawmaw!” or “The grass is growing and we can’t see Mawmaw”. It was during this hard time that you helped pull me out of some hard days and I know it was not a coincidence. Your caring, loving spirit is a big piece of why I am who I am today. I know the first year of your life was a whirlwind, but I know you were exactly where you needed to be.
Theme: Resilience and Flexibility
Your resilience and flexibility shined bright this year. In your second year of life, you moved to your third home, took many trips to Evansville to visit Nana and Grandpa, and you became a big brother. These are all big things, but you acted like it was no big deal. You helped us pack up your things, you said good bye to your “old house” and were very excited about your “new house”. You talked about the new house like it was a mansion. Your sleep schedule never skipped a beat, and you quickly fell in love with your new surroundings (the endless wildlife, pool and lake helped a little). Your mom and dad like to take weekend trips to visit family and friends, and we really took advantage of your traveling skills. You rarely had a fit in the car, and your sleep schedule by this age was hard to mess with . You demonstrated flexibility at its finest. Lastly, your true character shined when you welcomed “your baby” into the family. I always comment on how sweet you are, but you took it to a whole new level when Clara arrived. Your heart is so big, and you are the epitome of what a caring older brother looks like. While this in theory could have been a rough transition for you, you took it in stride, and realized very quickly that Clara would be your best friend. Thank you for showing me the importance of being resilient and flexibile. While you have rigid thoughts, and you do well with structure, you are also very good at overcoming major life changes that come your way. I hope you hold onto that for the rest of your life kiddo, and thank you for showing me the importance of it.
Theme: Weather the Storm.
It’s true what they say about threenagers. It really hit me in your third year of life how smart you really are, how big your heart is, and how strong willed you are. You changed a lot in your third year of life. We had conversations about your friends at school, discussed how your day went, and we really enjoyed telling bedtime stories. What really stood out to me this year was your ability to learn a lesson and incorporate it into your daily habits. Now, these lessons did not come easy. While the fits you threw were few and far between they were the most epic break downs of your short 3 year old life. We had a few moments where you were shaking and screaming because you were so angry at me. It was during these times that we sat there, weathering the storm. It never failed though. You always calmed down, and you always walked away with an understanding of why we said "no you can’t have a $100 toy while grocery shopping" or whatever absurd thing you were wanting at the time. There were many days I wanted to give in to your strong willed personality because it was going to be easier than withstanding the “Wyatt wrath”, but I knew deep down that you needed the lesson to grow as a human. So while you were an amazing three year old, this year taught me to stand my ground, and teach you the lessons that would shape you into a well rounded individual. I am positive you will thank me one day.
I can’t wait to see where this year brings you. You are a real gift to the world and I hope you always know how special you are.